Couples: Alone again—unnaturally

Couples: Alone again—unnaturally

“Inseparable.” That describes my husband and me—the public image and, better yet, the private reality. So why were we separated nine months last year? Why eight months in store this year? Why, subtracting it all up, has nearly half of our five-year...
WHY DO THE ‘NICE’ PEOPLE REMAIN SILENT?

WHY DO THE ‘NICE’ PEOPLE REMAIN SILENT?

A family—a “nice” family—is out for a walk in the park. They stroll by a Cinco de Mayo fiesta noisily underway. Without breaking stride, the parents—“nice” people, really—glance at each other. One of them raises an eyebrow and murmurs, “Different, aren’t they?” The...

SMART STEPS FOR STEPPARENTS

The toughest job in the world isn’t being a mother, it’s being a stepmother. I’ve weathered a divorce, reinvented myself as a “new” woman, and even survived a fat childhood. But nothing compares with the rigors of my improvised role as stepmother to two teenage...
EXCUSE ME, BUT WERE YOU IN VIETNAM?

EXCUSE ME, BUT WERE YOU IN VIETNAM?

Washington, D.C. After great pain, a formal feeling comes. — Emily Dickinson It was with commemoration in mind that I attended the unveiling of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. Thought the war’s validity is contested still, and though I myself did some of the...